Is Anthony J Grant a narcissist? I believe he is. Unfortunately, he is surrounded by enablers who allow him to continue this behaviour, even making excuses for him.
He then latches on to those excuses and repeats them.
What is a narcissist?
Psychiatrists Hotchkiss and James F. Masterson identified what they called the seven deadly sins of narcissism:
- Shamelessness: Narcissists are often proudly and openly shameless; they are not bound emotionally by the needs and wishes of others. Narcissists hate criticism, and consider it “toxic”, as criticism implies they are not perfect and need to change. Narcissists prefer guilt over shame, as guilt allows them to dissociate their actions from themselves – it’s only their actions that are wrong, while their intention is good.
- Magical thinking: Narcissists see themselves as perfect, using distortion and illusion known as magical thinking. They also use projection to “dump” shame onto others.
- Arrogance: A narcissist who is feeling deflated may “reinflate” their sense of self-importance by diminishing, debasing, or degrading somebody else.
- Envy: A narcissist may secure a sense of superiority in the face of another person’s ability by using contempt to minimize the other person or their achievements.
- Entitlement: Narcissists hold unreasonable expectations of particularly favorable treatment and automatic compliance because they consider themselves special. Failure to comply is considered an attack on their superiority, and the perpetrator is considered an “awkward” or “difficult” person. Defiance of their will is a narcissistic injury that can trigger narcissistic rage.
- Exploitation: Can take many forms but always involves the exploitation of others without regard for their feelings or interests. Often the other person is in a subservient position where resistance would be difficult or even impossible. Sometimes the subservience is not so much real as assumed. This exploitation may result in many brief, short-lived relationships.
- Bad boundaries: Narcissists do not recognize that they have boundaries and that others are separate and are not extensions of themselves. Others either exist to meet their needs or may as well not exist at all. Those who provide narcissistic supply to the narcissist are treated as if they are part of the narcissist and are expected to live up to those expectations. In the mind of a narcissist, there is no boundary between self and other.
Illness or choice?
Does our little drunk friend Anthony J Grant suffer from narcissistic personality disorder or is he just a plain old narcissist? The need to control, to be the centre of everyone’s universe? To have his fragile little ego stroked by women who truly are far too good for him?
If I believed Anthony, aka Antiono Grant Jr had narcissistic personality disorder I would possibly feel some pity for him. Because it wouldn’t be a choice, it would be a compulsion that he couldn’t control.
But he can control this, when he chooses. And that makes him so much more dangerous.
Is he a sociopath? Maybe, but again I actually think it is more sinister because he makes the choice to behave that way.
Dangerous little man
So what is Downpatrick -born chef Anthony Joseph Grant? This drunken little thief from Northern Ireland, and more recently Ballyheigue, is nothing more than simply an asshole. Scum. But unfortunately, he is also dangerous. He isn’t sick, and while I agree he is a drunk, I do not for a minute believe this is to blame for his behaviour. He has a well-proven pattern of using and abusing women, and playing the victim.
Share this site with your friends, make sure they know who and what he is. His family make excuses for him, his girlfriends is part of the scam, and he himself will never take responsibility for his actions as long as those two things keep happening.
It’s up to us to make sure he doesn’t keep getting away with this.